Relax Already.


So…I’m on vacation…relaxing…reading 10% Happier and learning a thing or two about not being a dick.  I was told I didn’t need to read the book because I’m already happy.  But why not aim for happier?  Or more relaxed?  Or something better?  Why not aspire?

Great book.  Great vacation.  And today involved a message to work about whether something needed to wait until I’m back.  When I replied that the end goal mattered, and not my participation in every play I new I got it.



To Untangle, Zentangle(R)!


“Honey, you’re wrapped kind of tight.” That was a familiar thing said to me growing up, that or variants thereof. I’ve mentioned it before and I will note it again, as was stated in the movie “Little Man Tate.”


In any case, yeah, maybe I am wrapped a little tight and maybe I am pensive to the point of appearing crabby.

So what of it? 😉

I was recently gifted with a Zentangle gift pack, a how-to book and some pens and some tiles.

Long story short, this is a meditative and relaxing art form not to be confused with doodling. It’s hard! But it does force me to be mindful and present and engaged in the practice.

Yeah, I have some hurdles to get over, like being more fully engaged and more patient…I need to cast aside my Yankee sensibility and not worry so much about wasting ink and paper.

Even so, I’m grateful for the gift that has allowed me an opportunity to breathe with purpose, to focus, and to unwrap, if only a little and temporarily.

I plan to stick with it, to get better and looser and more mindful…I highly suggest and recommend it, to anyone else who might be wrapped a little tighter than they’d like!

STFD: Ease Up, Already


I’m working on several posts currently, but they’re not fully formed. However, when I was driving home this morning, I had an experience that triggered a thought which led to an associated complete concept that I can post about right now.

I was exiting the highway at Union Street, which starts with a merging onto a rotary and for me ends with exiting off of the third exit. As I passed the second exit and headed toward the third, a merging car stepped on the gas to get out in front of me. Not what you’re supposed to do at a YIELD sign.

And then I got to thinking that even though the sign says YIELD, more often than not approaching cars move as if the driver has just read a sign reading FLOOR IT! And how that fact is really reflective of where we are headed directionally—not to mention speedingly—as a society. Sadly, societally, it’s not unlawful. But as I caught myself thinking “slow the eff down,” a thought I was directing to the driver of the offending car, it hit me that I could do much more emotional good for myself if I took that advice, if I slowed down for a second while she made her way along in front of me.

I have a lot to get done today so I’ll keep it brief:

When you’re tempted to speed up for no good reason, slow down. Take a breath. Take stock. Enjoy something about your surroundings. Express gratitude. Stop being in such a big hurry, particularly when you have no place to go. Think about all that you have and where you want to go. Reflect on where you’ve been and unload unnecessary weight.

Remember that life is a process, a journey, and you’re continually arriving. In the inimitable words of Ha Jin (a modern Chinese-American writer and poet), “Life is a journey and you can’t carry everything with you. Only the usable baggage.”

And decide for yourself whether it’s true what “they” say: the happiest people enjoy the scenery most on a detour.

But you decide. Remember, you have a choice. You can make it now.